I’m developing a personal system of understanding people. I have no degree or whatever is needed to do such a thing – it just helps me understand the differences between people I know, and how to respond to them. The ’emotives’, as I call them, are the first part, and what started the entire system. There are four.
The emotives concern the relationships between incidents, the emotional responses to those incidents, the self-reflection on those emotions, and the resulting reactions.
1. Emotive Rational
Emotive rationality goes like this: Incident – Thought – Emotion – Reaction
After the incident occurs, the Emotive Rational must still consider the situation to pinpoint an accurate degree of emotional reaction, before allowing the emotion. The good thing about these kinds of people is that they rarely overreact, as long as they understand the situation. However, they may come off as uncaring or uninterested in another’s emotions, and their perception would probably be that many people overreact. Their main tick-off tends to be irrationality. Also, if they perceive that they have been given enough reason, they may be relentless, and therefore ruthless, in their reaction.
Illustration: If they were sitting at a cinema and someone much taller than them sat in front of them, they may wish, very briefly, to cut off his head so that they can see. However, the cutting off of the head would not be commensurate to the incident, so they just sit, or move.
2. Emotive Judgmental
Emotive Judgmentals go like this: Incident – Emotion – Reaction – Thought Process
Emotive Judgmentals tend not to see what they did or do as wrong as long as they have a reason, or a trigger for doing what they did. These kinds of people tend to be understanding of many kinds of actions, when they are explained to them, because for them, the incident is justification for the action, no matter the level of action taken due to the incident. However, they are also prone to being unapologetic or good at making excuses and giving reasons, because they don’t understand why they should be held accountable for what they did, or why they have to be sorry about it. There was a trigger, they felt an emotion, they reacted. All is fine.
Illustration: If an Emotive Judgmental is sitting down at a cinema and someone taller than them sits in front of them, he will feel like cutting the person’s head off so he can see, then he will cut the person’s head off, then explain that he cut the person’s head off because he couldn’t see over him. The justification removes the need for apology. [Obviously an exaggeration].
3. Emotive Status Quo
An Emotive Status Quo goes like this: Incident – Emotion.
The people under this classification react to incidents without any immediate need for physical reaction, neither do they think about the emotion and its fittingness to the incident. However, the emotion easily colors unrelated emotions and actions. They tend to be good listeners, but won’t or can’t quickly give advice. However, their reflections on what they hear tend to be deep and clear. They can also seem unresponsive, however, because they tend to experience the emotion without necessarily expressing it.
Illustration: An Emotive Status Quo goes to the cinema and someone taller than him sits in front of him. He gets mad, but says and does nothing. Then the Emotive Status Quo goes out to get popcorn and snaps at the line and the saleslady.
4. Emotive Analytical
The Emotive Analytical goes like this: Emotion – Reaction – Thought Process – Incident.
The Emotive Analytical is the last that I came up with, because it’s actually very hard to catch. For these kinds of people, they suddenly have an emotion, react based on that emotion, and leave everyone around them baffled as to where that sudden change came from. However, they are usually baffled themselves. So, they think back, and realize that the emotion and reaction were directly related to a specific incident. These kinds of people often come off as moody, and very often they are. They are also terribly unpredictable in terms of action. However, since they are not burdened with thought processes or connections, it is comparatively easy to make them happy.
Illustration: An Emotive Analytical goes to the cinema. He whips out a bolo and cuts off the head of the person in front of him. Then he wonders why he got angry enough to cut someone’s head off, and realizes that the now-headless dude was so tall that the Emotive Analytical could not see the screen.
For the Emotives, that’s all I have for now. I have yet to meet someone who does not fall into any of the four. Of course, the intensity of being a certain kind of emotive varies per person. Also, a personal emotive may be modified through greater awareness of self and actions and reactions, although I don’t think they change.
This is usually the baseline of what I use when I’m trying to understand someone. Knowing in what order their emotions, reactions, thought processes, and the incident occurs helps me look at the world through their eyes.